Amy Lombardi, LPC

Not Having Sex? Is This Why?
When resentment is getting in the way of your connection.

The most common reason couples come to me is because the intimacy they used to experience with each other is disappearing…or gone! It’s not uncommon for one partner to crave sex and intimacy more than the other. If this sounds familiar, you might want to both see a doctor to make sure your hormone levels are okay. But […]

Not Having Sex? Is This Why?

When resentment is getting in the way of your connection.

One rockclimber helps the other up a ledge

The One Thing Successful Relationships Require
Why courage is essential.

Coping Strategies / Amy Lombardi, LPC

US President Franklin D. Roosevelt once said, “Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.” After over 20 years of working with nearly a thousand couples, there’s one thing I can say for sure: Successful relationships require courage. Is your relationship worth pushing through the

The One Thing Successful Relationships Require

Why courage is essential.

How Prejudging Hurts Your Relationship
I challenge you to try THIS instead.

Connecting with Partner / Amy Lombardi, LPC

I’ve been fortunate to train under the best-of-the-best in relationship therapy and in the neuroscience of therapy. One expert I greatly respect is physician Gabor Maté, a leader in trauma and the lifelong impacts on physical and mental health. I recently watched his video-based program called Starting Fresh, designed to help parents and their adult children

How Prejudging Hurts Your Relationship

I challenge you to try THIS instead.

You Can Heal Your Relationship At Any Age!
The average couple takes six years to seek help. Don't let that be you!

Connecting with Partner / Amy Lombardi, LPC

In the last few years, I’ve noticed a shift in the ages of people who seek couples counseling, as well as at what point in the relationship they are seeking help. While in years past, most of my clients ranged in age from their late 30s to 50s, lately I’ve been seeing many clients in their 60’s and 70’s

You Can Heal Your Relationship At Any Age!

The average couple takes six years to seek help. Don't let that be you!

I Don’t Trust You 🤔
How to repair a breach.

Coping Strategies / Amy Lombardi, LPC

“I don’t trust you.” I can’t tell you how often I’ve heard one partner say this sentence to the other during my work with couples. Most times, this statement is said in anger and only partially true; yet these words instantly cause a rift in the relationship. Why Saying This Is Often Unfair If your

I Don’t Trust You 🤔

How to repair a breach.

How to set an emotional boundary
What to do when your partner offends or hurts you.

Coping Strategies / Amy Lombardi, LPC

I’ll often say to a client, “Put on your mosquito net.” The “Mosquito Net” is a technique you can use whenever your partner says something that offends or hurts you, or makes you feel defensive. This technique involves using the power of your imagination. How do you do it? The “Mosquito Net” Technique First, you

How to set an emotional boundary

What to do when your partner offends or hurts you.

2 Little Words That Destroy
These 2 words hurt relationships. Say this instead...

Connecting with Partner, Relationships / Amy Lombardi, LPC

There are two little words that I see hurt relationships again and again. I ask all the couples I work with to try not to use them. Can you guess what they are? While you’re thinking about it, I’ll tell you that you might find it hard to stop using these two words altogether. But

2 Little Words That Destroy

These 2 words hurt relationships. Say this instead...

The Pains Of Infertility
A dark time in my life

Connecting with Partner, Infertility, Parenting / Amy Lombardi, LPC

I can’t even count how many couples I’ve seen in the past two decades who’ve experienced infertility. The pains and disappointments of another month without a pregnancy, feeling like everyone else is easily getting pregnant, invasive tests and procedures, and dealing with insensitive comments by others such as, “When are you going to have a

The Pains Of Infertility

A dark time in my life

Do You Know About Red Flag People?
How to teach your kids personal boundaries

Childhood trauma, Parenting, Setting Boundaries / Amy Lombardi, LPC

In my work as a couples counselor, clients often confide that they are survivors of child sexual abuse. One client even told me that they’d been harboring this secret for 55 years. This person had been carrying the guilt and shame all that time! Not surprisingly, bearing this burden alone for so many decades had

Do You Know About Red Flag People?